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Getting Your Ex Back - Why A Hungry Dog Doesn’t Get Fed!

You’ve probably heard the proverbial old wisdom about “Why A Hungry Dog Doesn’t Get Fed”. The logic behind this phrase will be helpful for you to understand right now if you are wanting to win back the love of your ex boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband and you have been exhibiting some needy and desperate behaviors.

Think about it. What do you do when a hungry dog shows up at your door? You probably know that you need to shoo it away, because if you feed it you will be stuck with that dog coming back over and over for another free meal and that dog will become a real nuisance. So you pick up the phone and call the Pound or the Humane Society instead.

But what happens if instead of a mangy mutt, a handsome well fed and groomed dog with a nice shiny collar happens to show up at your door? You can’t help but admire that dog and you know it doesn’t need you to feed it; it’s obviously well taken care of and probably just lost or wandering around checking out the neighborhood.

So you feel a little relieved, perhaps even think that it might be nice to have a dog like that. Do you get the metaphor here? You don’t want to come across to your ex as the “needy dog” - you want to be the handsome, well fed dog instead.

Exhibiting needy behaviors such as calling too much or begging and pleading with your ex to take you back only makes you seem like the “needy dog” to your ex lover and this will push them away even more.

You can see this behavior will not make you the least bit attractive to your ex, but the other thing you need to understand is that people tend to want what they can’t have, and if you are showing up at your ex’s door all the time looking for emotional reassurance you certainly aren’t that beautiful well taken care of dog that they might admire but that’s just out of their reach.

You see people tend to like people who like themselves, who are emotionally secure and confident and don’t “need” someone else to make them happy.

So if you really want to win back the love of your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife, do them and yourself a favor and give them some space for awhile while you get a handle on your emotions and cut loose the desperate, needy behaviors.

Then you’ll be ready to start planning a SMARTER strategy to get back with your ex.

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