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Getting Your Ex Back - 10 Common Break Blunders To Avoid

If you are still not over your break up and would really like to have a chance at winning your ex-lover back, you have to make sure you are not committing the types of breakup blunders that actually will make it harder to win your ex back.

Are you guilty of committing any of these ten break up blunders?

1.Telling your ex that you think they are making a huge mistake. This isn’t going to get them to pause and think it over, it will only make them more sure that they made the right decision to break up with you in the first place.

2. Calling too soon after the break up. Your ex has broken up with you and this should make it clear that they need some space right now and the last thing they want is to hear from you.

3. Drunk Dialing. You have imbibed a bit too much and are really letting your emotions run amuck so you keep picking up the phone to try and get your ex to talk to you. See # 2

4. Leaving your ex a lot of voice mail and email messages… Again - see #2

5. Telling your ex and everyone who will listen how sad, lonely and depressed you have been since the breakup. If you are hoping to win the sympathy of your ex you need to understand that this is just being manipulative, and no matter how unintentional it may be you are still overwhelming them with your emotions and neediness, a real relationship killer.

6. Continuing to argue about the break up and bringing up past disagreements and squabbles. If you do get your ex’s attention and get them talking to you this is not the best use of any contact time. You are being immature and petty and this isn’t going to get you back with your ex, instead it will keep you constantly cycling through the past history of your relationship.

7. Professing your undying love over and over. Even if you think that they don’t understand how much you really love them, obviously that is not the issue right now or they wouldn’t have left. It’s time to take a different perspective and analyze what went wrong with the relationship and what you could do better instead of thinking that true love will conquer all.

8. Apologizing over and over and over again. Now maybe you did something wrong, perhaps even really blew it by cheating or breaking a big promise. An apology is in order, but you have to know the right way to make an effective apology and rarely anyone knows how to do this. You also don’t want to make the mistake of apologizing too soon. And if you didn’t do something that warrants an apology, then you are compromising yourself and this isn’t an attractive trait in anybody.

9. Trying to make your ex jealous. This may work initially because humans tend to be wired to want what they can’t have, and it may even be a tiny part of a smarter strategy to get your ex back. But it’s not a good tactic to depend on for the long term. The reasons for the break up won’t have changed so trying to win your ex back using only manipulative tactics will have you ending up with a more complicated relationship that will be even harder to keep going for the long term.

10. Pleading with your ex to take you back. The big secret here is this: people like people who like themselves, who are strong and emotionally secure enough not to want someone back so much that they will sacrifice their self dignity by begging.

Now you know what common blunders you need to avoid if you want to have the best chance of winning back your ex boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband. So start to analyze what went wrong with the relationship and what you need to change and then you are ready to make some SMARTER moves to get your ex back.

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